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How to recognize the many faces of anxiety and support your child through times of separation

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Although anxiety is the most common mental health challenge for children, in the early years it can be hard to recognize and is often missed. A child’s automatic response may be to protect themselves, and they may hit, bite and yell—all to make what they feel is a “threat” go away. A child can feel alarmed when separated from the people they’re attached to. Of course, alarmed children usually don’t know why they feel bad inside; they’re just agitated, restless, rigid and irritable.

The deep instinct to stay close to the people they’re attached to can make separation at drop-off and bedtime difficult in these years. And as young children grow, their worries and fears combine with a growing imagination and exposure to real-world events and dangers, creating a perfect anxiety storm.

By recognizing and understanding anxiety in the early years, parents can take the lead in supporting their anxious child.

These resources include practical tips on recognizing anxiety in the early years.

Downloadable tip sheets

Helping with Anxiety and Transitions: Storybooks

A list of storybooks that show how to support children with separation anxiety, fears and worries 

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How Do I Know If My Child Is Anxious?

Some of the most common (but not always so obvious) signs of anxiety in young children 

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Things to Remember When My Child Has Separation Anxiety

What to do during emotional moments of separation, and reassuring phrases  

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Things to Remember When My Child Is Anxious

Helpful reminders and comforting phrases to say to your anxious child, with an extra resource for accessing community support in British Columbia 

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Tips for Managing Anxiety at Drop-Off

How to prepare for and support your child at dropoffs, with a list of related storybooks  

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Tips for supporting an anxious preschooler

Click on the images to learn about playful and creative activities to help an anxious child feel soothed and more secure 

When anxiety turns angry

Click on the next button for practical tips for when your child shows distress through aggression, resistance and tears 

More resources

Emotion Coaching Framework Cheat Sheet, Mental Health Foundations
Helpful phrases that can support and reassure your distressed child

Helping Your Kindergartener with Separation Anxiety, Anxiety Canada
Ways to support your child during their transition to kindergarten (video, 3:10)

Separation Anxiety During the First Days of Kindergarten, Anxiety Canada
Supporting your anxious child starting kindergarten, with things to do the week before school starts and the first drop-offs

When Saying Goodnight Is Hard, Dr. Deborah MacNamara
20 ways to help your child with bedtime separation anxiety